YOU ARE BETTER THAN THIS
I know that certain things are probably going through your mind right now because a lot of stuffs are going on in your life. Some of you are happy because you just got a new job, just got married, just gave birth, just got a visa, just relocated to a bigger apartment, just got into a relationship; just won some contracts, just made more money among many other things. While some of you are sad because you are not where you want to be. Some of you want more money, want to be married, want to be CEO”s, want a brand new car, want to own your own house and want to have kids.
Some of you don’t even think your life has a meaning or purpose. You just work day in day out to make a living. You don’t even know why you exist.
I write to tell you today that u are better than your situation, the environment, and every other thing that might seem to bother you. Right Now Nigeria looks like a whole mess to you. The country is confused and no one seems to have the solution to the problems. The sad part is that some of you, your lives currently reflect the Nigerian situation. Your spirit is not at peace because of everything going on around you but the truth is "you are better than this". You must understand that everything in life is temporal. Weeping may endure for a night but your joy is sure to come in the morning. You might not be happy right now but u will be happy again. It’s only a matter of time. You need to wear the right mind set. You are bigger and better than this. Say to yourself whenever you face a situation that might seem to wear you down. I am better and bigger than this. God has designed a better life than what you are currently living. You are the cause of your own problems. Reason being that you can not fathom the blessings God has in store for you. Hence you live in the limitation of your own imagination. Ever since the day I discovered that God blessings can never run out of time but i can run out of time due to death which is inevitable for us all, I have come to understand that everyday must count. I must live today better than the way I lived yesterday because I am better than my yesterday.
You might have made mistakes in the past, you might have come out with bad grades, had an abortion, committed fraud, among many others or you might still be making some mistakes like engaging in premarital sex, adultery, cutting corners at your work place, lying and every other wrong thing you and I can think of but it important for you to know that "You are better than this". You are a child of God and your life must reflect who he is. You are his ambassador here on earth.
People are watching You and God is watching You. You don’t have to be a pastor to preach the gospel; You can preach the gospel of Christ as a fashion designer, business leader, entrepreneur, artist, musician among many others. However you are better than your mistakes. Let go of the past and move on. We must understand that God doesn’t need to consult with your past to determine your future. Before you were formed in your mother’s womb, he knew you. He didn’t bless u based on your efforts, he blessed you and he is still going to bless you because that is his nature.
Even for those of you who are happy with yourself right now, you probably fall into the category of those who have new jobs, new cars, new contracts, new home, newly wedded amongt the other good things, "you are still better and bigger than all of that". You can achieve much more.
No matter how great you are or how great your accomplishments are, remember that it is only a fraction of what you can still accomplish. You are still better and bigger than that. You can accomplish much more than you are doing right now.
Wherever you fall on the side of the equation listed above. Be it happy about your situation or sad about it, either worried about your past or your present. You are better and bigger than that.
So keep pushing to be a better person, keep pushing to achieve much more, achieve your purpose, discover who God has created you to be and don’t stop.
Remember the sky is no longer your limit. Death is your new limit. Death should be the only thing that should stop you from pushing further.....
I love you and i wish you all the best..............
Remember "you are better than this"
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TAKING PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY
· Have you ever thought that you are where you are because of who you are?
· Have you wondered who is responsible for what you are going through?
Everything that exists in your life exists because of you, your behavior, words and actions. You have the freedom to choose and because you have chosen each and every circumstance of your life, you are completely responsible for all of your successes and failures, your happiness and unhappiness, your present and your future.
That thought is like a parachute jump: it is scary and exhilarating at the same time. It is one of the biggest and most important ideas that can ever occur to you. The acceptance of personal responsibility is what separates the adult from the child. It is the great leap forward into maturity. Responsibility goes hand in hand with success, achievement, motivation, happiness and self actualization. It is the absolute minimum requirement for the accomplishment of everything you could ever really want in life. Accepting that you are completely responsible for yourself and realizing that no one is coming to the rescue is the beginning of peak performance.
There is absolutely nothing impossible after you accept the fact that “if it has to be, then it’s up to me!!!
The opposite of accepting responsibility is making excuses and blaming people and things for what’s going on in your life. Since everything we do is a matter of habit, we would get into the habit of always making excuses and evading responsibility if we do not take personal responsibility for our actions.
Look at your current life and ask yourself, what are all the things in my life that are inconsistent with the lifestyle that would make me happy? Then make a decision to begin alleviating those things one by one until what you have left is the kind of life you want to live.
Only you can direct your thoughts, only you can decide what you will dwell upon, what you will read and listen to, who you will associate with and the conversations you will engage in. Therefore, you are totally responsible for all the consequences of all those behaviors. This is unavoidable.
Perhaps the most important part of the subject of self-responsibility involves your happiness and your peace of mind. There seems to be a direct relationship between responsibility and happiness on one hand and irresponsibility and unhappiness on the other hand. Let me explain. What’s the antidote to blame game? It’s simple! Since your mind can hold only one thought at a time, either positive or negative, you can override the tendency to blame and become angry simply by saying firmly, I AM RESPONSIBLE! You can’t accept responsibility for a situation and be angry at the same time. The acceptance of responsibility negates negative emotions and short-circuits any tendencies towards unhappiness.
The very act of accepting responsibility calms your mind and clarifies your vision. It soothes your emotions and enables you to think more positively and constructively. In fact, the acceptance of responsibility often gives you insight into what you should do to resolve the situation.
There's the story of the construction worker who opens up his lunch box at the noon break and unwraps his sandwich to find that it contains sardines. He gets really upset and complains loudly to everyone around him about how much he hates sardines. The next day, the same thing happens: a sardine sandwich. Again, the construction worker shouts and complains about how much he hates sardines for lunch. The third day it happens again. By this time, his fellow workers are getting fed up with his loud complaining. One of them leans over and says to him, If you hate sardines so much, why don't you tell your wife to make you some other kind of sandwich? The construction worker turns to the fellow and says, Oh, I'm not married. I make my own lunches!
Many of us get into the same situation as the construction worker and complain about circumstances that are almost entirely of our own making. Is this true for you? Look at your relationships and ask where this might be true in your life.
Are you happy with your job? Are you happy with the amount of money you're earning? Are you happy with your level of responsibility and your activities each day? If you're not, you need to accept that you're completely responsible for every aspect of your job and your career. Why? Because you chose it freely. You took the job, you assumed the responsibilities, and you accepted the wage. If you're not happy with any of them, for any reason, then it's up to you to do something different.
You're earning today exactly what you're worth-not a penny more, not a penny less. In life, we tend to get exactly what we deserve. If you're not satisfied with the amount you're getting, look around you, at people who are doing the kind of work you would like to do and earning the kind of money you would like to earn. Ask them what they're doing differently from what you're doing. What are the causes of the effects they're getting? Once you know what they are, accept complete responsibility for your situation, apply your mind and abilities, back them with willpower and self-discipline, and get busy making the changes you need to make to enjoy the life you want to enjoy.
Your great aim in life is to develop character. Character is composed of self-esteem, self-discipline, the ability to delay gratification, and the willingness to accept full responsibility for your life and everything in it.
The more you say to yourself, I am responsible, the stronger, better and finer a person you become. And every part of your life will improve at the same time.
Remember that if you really want to do something, you will find a way and if you don’t, you will find an excuse.
Take responsibility today!!!!!!
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THE WINNING MINDSET
"winning is not a sometime thing; it is an all time thing. you dont win once in a while, you dont do things right once in a while, you do them right all the time. winning is a habit. Unfortunately, so is losing"- Vince Lombardi
The way you think strongly determines what kind of mindset you have. The good news is that you can change the way you think. Some people are concerned that changing their mindset is a difficult task. What many dont realize is that, it is something we do everyday.
If you are due to have an operation you will be initially worried and afraid, but then, you will accept the fact that it is for your best and this will mean you recover more quickly. This is an example of changing your mindset.
Winners need an open mind, one that is receptive to new ideas and thinking differently. That is not to say they need accept all ideas- an open mind is still a working mind. Winners and losers may see the same opportunities but it is the way they view these opportunities that makes them different. Winners are prepared to give things a try.
Having a winner's mindset does not necessarily mean going around telling everyone you are the best thing since sliced bread. Thankfully, very few of us are like that.
Those with a winner's mindset believe that potential is not a finite product, that talents can be developed and that great abilities are built over time. In other words, stars can be made as well as born. You can achieve if you want to; you can maximize your potential if you put your mind to it. This leads to improvement, increased frequency of success and decreased frequency of failure. Success is seen as confirmation that everything is on the right track rather than as a stroke of luck.
LOSER’S MINDSET LANGUAGE
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WINNER’S MINDSET LANGUAGE
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CAN YOU CHANGE YOUR MIND AND BECOME A WINNER???
Those with a loser's mindset will say you can't- of course, they would. That is one of their characteristics. They are stuck in their ways, bound by their culture, restricted to the way they have been brought up and taught. Likewise, those of a winner's mindset will say you can- you are in control of your life so you can decide what you do and dont do, what you think and dont think.
Happily, the experts are siding with the winners. Personality psychologists Dr. Corol Dweck, who is the world authority in this area also believes that the winners mindset can be both taught and caught( that is socialized) in all spheres of life.
Early academic thinking suggested that we are not able to choose how we think; that we are a product both of genetics and how we were brought up in our so called "formative years". Most people think that once we get set in our ways, that is it. "You can't teach an old dog new tricks." Thinking this way restricts us from fulfilling our potential- which is central to winning.
Our formative years actually never end. We can change the way we think whenever we want. Like Now
Change your mindset & Keep winning!!!
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With these responses Mr. Rat was disheartened and decided to lie low on the issue and avoid the trap as much as possible. One fateful day, he was feeding in the fields nearby and Mr. Snake saw Mr. Rat from a distance and stealthily crawled to capture Mr. Rat for lunch. Luckily, a few meters away, Mr. Rat spotted Mr. Snake and dashed-off so, Mr. Snake went in pursuit. Unluckily for Mr. Snake as he got into the farmhouse, he unwittingly passed over the rat trap and it snapped to capture Mr. Snake. The farmer’s wife happened to be in the farmhouse at that moment and was seemingly excited to hear the trap snap thinking that the rat had been caught. Immediately she went to confirm whether the rat was caught. Unfortunately, Mr. Snake that was in a struggle to survive lashed out and bit her leaving his poisonous venom in her. She succeeded in killing the snake but she grew weaker as the moments ebbed. Her shout after being bitten by the snake had alarmed the farmer who had come rushing to the farmhouse only to see his wife weak on the floor. Quickly he rushed her to the hospital, after some treatment and medication, the doctor advised that she be given some good chicken pepper soup. So the next day the farmer rushed to the farmhouse, got the cock and killed it to make the required chicken pepper soup. The farmer’s wife ate but did not get better. The doctor then gave more prescriptions and then said that goat pepper soup this time around will do the job. By the next day, the farmer had killed Mr. Goat to get the pepper soup done. By the third day the farmer’s wife died; after a period of mourning, a funeral was organized and Mr. Bull was killed to serve guests at the funeral. It seems Mr. Rat happened to be the only survivor. Now I wonder if the trap was actually the rat’s trap!
The moral is this; we can always take the easiest path by standing aloof saying it does not concern me because we can’t see immediately how the problems of others concern us but someday, somehow, somewhere what goes around comes knocking. My heart weeps over what is happening in northern Nigeria; the destruction and the devastation the boko haram sector is pouring out. The south it seems are not overly concerned to shout on the roof tops and do whatever is necessary to stem this scourge. I wonder how many wake up at night to call on God for the solution to this mayhem. A lot of people outside this disturbed area seem not to care as much to put their lives on line to stem this violence. A wise man once said that injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. I add that crime anywhere is a threat to law and order everywhere. Violence anywhere is a threat to peace everywhere. Anger anywhere is a threat to joy, happiness and serenity everywhere. Lack and deprivation anywhere is a threat to sufficiency and abundance everywhere. Illiteracy anywhere is a threat to education, literacy and development everywhere. Hatred anywhere is a threat to love everywhere. Wicked people anywhere are a threat to good people everywhere. Selfishness anywhere is a threat to care and benevolence everywhere. Corruption anywhere is a threat to orderliness, excellence and meritocracy everywhere. Now these threats that can be seen on the national scale in our country can be observed in the lives of individuals, families, communities, organizations and then the nation as a whole. It affects everyone!
In Conclusion, we cannot afford to fold our hands and allow anything that threatens our very existence to exist, let alone thrive. Let’s ask God to see the connection between us and the problems around. Let’s take responsibility and free ourselves from the looming trap that deceptively tells us it does not concern us. It concerns us all; the trap for one is the trap for all. The victory for one is the victory for all!
Pray, think, speak and act wisely as one for the good of all. God bless as you do!
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Welcome to a collection of inspirational quotations on building your confidence
- Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy. Norman Vincent Peale
- Confidence is that feeling by which the mind embarks in great and honorable courses with a sure hope and trust in itself. Marcus Tullius Cicero
- Besides pride, loyalty, discipline, heart, and mind, confidence is the key to all the locks. Joe Paterno
- Crystallize your goals. Make a plan for achieving them and set yourself a deadline. Then, with supreme confidence, determination and disregard for obstacles and other people's criticisms, carry out your plan. Paul J. Meyer
- Confidence is key. Sometimes, you need to look like you're confident even when you're not. Vanessa Hudgens
- Leadership is a matter of having people look at you and gain confidence, seeing how you react. If you're in control, they're in control. Tom Landry
- As is your confidence, so is your capacity. William Hazlitt
- I think that the power is the principle. The principle of moving forward, as though you have the confidence to move forward, eventually gives you confidence when you look back and see what you've done. Robert Downey, Jr.
- When you look good, you feel good. Confidence with what you're wearing is very important. If you feel good, you will always perform your best without worrying about anything. Maria Sharapova
- Attempt easy tasks as if they were difficult, and difficult as if they were easy; in the one case that confidence may not fall asleep, in the other that it may not be dismayed. Baltasar Gracian
- Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. George Washington
- You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' Eleanor Roosevelt
- If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life. Marcus Garvey
- All you need is ignorance and confidence and the success is sure. Mark Twain
- Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained. Marie Curie
- Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear. Perhaps the action you take will be successful; perhaps different action or adjustments will have to follow. But any action is better than no action at all. Norman Vincent Peale
- Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love. Lao Tzu
- Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence. Helen Keller
- Confidence is contagious. So is lack of confidence. Vince Lombardi
- He who has faith has... an inward reservoir of courage, hope, confidence, calmness, and assuring trust that all will come out well - even though to the world it may appear to come out most badly. B. C. Forbes
- To succeed in life, you need two things: ignorance and confidence. Mark Twain
- Confidence... thrives on honesty, on honor, on the sacredness of obligations, on faithful protection and on unselfish performance. Without them it cannot live. Franklin D. Roosevelt
- It is not so much our friends' help that helps us, as the confidence of their help. Epicurus
- Have no fear of moving into the unknown. Simply step out fearlessly knowing that I am with you, therefore no harm can befall you; all is very, very well. Do this in complete faith and confidence. Pope John Paul II
- With confidence, you have won before you have started. Marcus Garvey
- Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy. Dale Carnegie
- If once you forfeit the confidence of your fellow-citizens, you can never regain their respect and esteem. Abraham Lincoln
- People who have given us their complete confidence believe that they have a right to ours. The inference is false, a gift confers no rights. Friedrich Nietzsche
- If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life. With confidence, you have won even before you have started. Marcus Tullius Cicero
- The man of genius inspires us with a boundless confidence in our own powers. Ralph Waldo Emerson
- Faith is a living, daring confidence in God's grace, so sure and certain that a man could stake his life on it a thousand times. Martin Luther
- Confidence contributes more to conversation than wit. Francois de La Rochefoucauld
- Courage is a mean with regard to fear and confidence. Aristotle
- Find your self-respect now. Don't dumb yourselves down. Think of yourself as capable and worthy of finding a guy/girl who is going to respect you.
- Leadership is solving problems. The day soldiers stop bringing you their problems is the day you have stopped leading them. They have either lost confidence that you can help or concluded you do not care. Either case is a failure of leadership. Colin Powell
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WHY WE FAIL AT ACHIEVING OUR GOALS & WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT
Have you ever wondered why you set out on the 1st of January to achieve things for the New Year and you end up not achieving all or some of the goals set out? How about when at the start of a brand new month you make a “To do list” of things you want to achieve and never get to the end of the list? It is mainly because the average individual has at least 3 personalities in him/her seeking expression to be the dominant personality at every point in time. The problem is compounded by the fact that while each of these personalities wants to be the boss, none of them wants to have a boss! I will call these personalities, The Thinker, The Planner and The Doer. In order to explain these different personalities, I will like to briefly share a story.
Have you ever decided to go on a diet? It is a Sunday evening and you are sitting in front of the television set, watching a movie, awed by the actors and actresses body structure. The men on the screen have six packs while the women have shapes like that of Kim Kardashian. You are eating chocolates and fox biscuit, your fifth since you sat down to watch the event three hours before. You are feeling sluggish in the face of all the action on the screen when, suddenly, a voice inside you wakes and says, “What are you doing? Look at yourself, you’re fat! You’re out of shape! Do something about it!” It has happened to us all. Somebody wakes up inside us with a totally different picture of who we should be and what we should be doing. In this case, let us call him the Skinny Guy.
Who is the Skinny Guy? He is the one who uses the words like discipline, exercise, organize. The Skinny Guy is intolerant, self righteous, a stickler for detail and a compulsive tyrant. The skinny Guy abhors fat people, he cannot stand sitting around doing nothing. He needs to be on the move and he lives for action.
The skinny Guy has just taken over. Watch out- things are about to change. Before you know it, you’re cleaning all the fattening food out of the refrigerator. You are buying a new pair of running shoes, barbells and sweats. Things are going to be different around here. You have a new lease on life. You plan your new physical regimen: up at five, run three miles, cold shower at six, a breakfast of wheat toast, black coffee and half a grapefruit; then, go to work, home by seven, run another two miles, to bed at ten- the world is already a different place! And you are actually going to pull this off! By Monday night, you have lost two pounds. You go to sleep dreaming of winning the Olympics 2012 athletic marathon. Why not? The way things are going, it is only a matter of time. Tuesday night you get on the scale. Another pound gone! You’re incredible!
On Wednesday, you really pour it on. You work out an extra hour in the morning, an extra half-hour at night. You cannot wait to get on the scale. You strip down to your bare skin, shivering in the bathroom, filled with expectation of what your scale is going to tell you. You step lightly onto it and look down. What you see is ------ nothing. You have notlost an ounce. You are exactly the same as you were on Tuesday. Dejection creeps in. You begin to feel a slight twinge of resentment. “After all that work and then you get nothing? It’s not fair!” But you shrug it off. After all, tomorrow is another day. You go to bed, vowing to worker harder on Thursday, but somehow something has changed. You don’t know what has changed until Thursday morning.
It’s raining. The room is cold, something else is different. What is it? For a minute you cannot quite put your finger on it and then you get it: somebody else is in your body. It’s the Fat Guy. He is back and here to stay. As a matter of fact, he doesn’t even want to get out of bed. All of a sudden you find yourself in front of the refrigerator. Food is now your major interest. The zeal to run marathons is gone; the lean machine is gone and the running shoes are gone. The fat Guy is back and he is running the show again. It happens to all of us, time and time again because we have been deluded into thinking we are really one person. And so when the skinny guy decides to change things we actually believe that it is I who is making that decision. And when the fat guy wakes up and changes it all back again, we think it’s I who is making that decision too. But it isn’t, it’s “we”
The skinny guy and the fat guy are two totally different personalities, with different needs, different interests and different lifestyles. They don’t like each other because they want totally different things. In other words, when you are the skinny guy, you are always making promises for the fat guy to keep and vice versa. Is it any wonder we have such a tough time keeping our commitments to ourselves?? It is not that we are indecisive or unreliable, it’s just that each and every one of us is a whole set of different personalities, each with his own interest and way of doing things.
Asking any one of them to defer to any of the others is inviting a battle or even a full scale war. Anyone who has ever experienced the conflict between the Fat Guy and the Skinny Guy (and haven’t we all?) knows what I mean. You cannot be both; one of them has to lose, and they both know it. Well that is the kind of war going inside all of us when we set out goals to achieve, but it is a three way battle between the thinker, the planner and the doer. Unfortunately, it is a battle no one can win. Understanding the differences between them will quickly explain why.
THE THINKER:
This is a personality that helps you set out your goals. It is the visionary in us, the dreamer. It is the energy behind every human activity. It is the imagination that sparks the fire for the future and the catalyst for change. The thinker is our creative personality and it has an extraordinary need for control. Living as he does in the visionary world of the future, he needs to control of people and events in the present so that he can concentrate on his dreams.
THE PLANNER:
The planner personality is pragmatic. Without this personality, there would be no planning, no order, and no predictability. If the thinker lives in the future, the planner in us lives in the past. While the thinker in us craves control, the planner craves order. Where the thinker thrives on change, the planner compulsively clings to the status quo. Without the planner personality, our goals cannot move from the dream/thinking stage. Without the thinker, there would be no innovation in our lives and without the planner; they would be no achievements. It is the tension between the thinker’s vision and the planner’s pragmatism that creates the synthesis from which all great works are born.
THE DOER
This personality puts into actions the activities of the thinker and the planner. The doer believes that things are not supposed to be dreamed about, they are supposed to be done. Without this personality, we will only keep thinking and planning without ever executing. The doer knows that if it were not for him, you would be in more trouble than you are already. Nothing would get done, but you will only be thinking about it.
SO WHAT MUST WE DO?
The fact is that we all have the thinker, the planner and the doer personality in us and if they are equally balanced, we would be describing an incredibly competent individual. The thinker would be free to make new goals, the planner would be able to systematically plan how the goals will be achieved and the doer will be able to put the plan to action. Unfortunately, research shows that few people have that going for them. Instead the typical individual is only 10% thinker, 20% planner and 70% doer or maybe 70% thinker, 20% planner and 10% doer. Either way, it does not work. Hence we must find a way to balance these three personalities by giving equal opportunity, freedom and nourishment required by each one to grow.
Before setting out goals, give yourself time to think it through and be sure to set realistic goals. Swiftly move on to the planning stage and finally to the execution stage complete with timelines! You must not allow yourself be dominated by your strongest personality which could be either of the three listed above. You must know when to move on from one stage to the next. Only when you learn how to balance these personalities will you be able to achieve your goals effortlessly.
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Who told you, you are not good enough?
Who told you, you will never amount to anything?Who told you, you are too weak?
Who told you, you are ugly?
Who told you, you don’t deserve the best things in life?
Who told you, you can’t make it?
Who told you, it’s too late?
Who told you, you are too fat or too skinny or too short or too tall to be successful?
Who told you, you have to be a certain person to find love?
Who told you it’s too late to get married?
Who told you, your mistakes can’t be forgiven?
Who told you, you can’t go back to school if you want to?
Who told you to let go of your dreams?
Who told you your current situation is the best thing you can ever get?
Who told you, you can’t do better than that?
Who told you, you have to be stupid to keep a man/woman you love?
Who told you, you can’t get a better job?
Who told you, you can’t live a better life?
Who told you, your dreams are too big?
Who told you, you can’t have it all?
Who told you, you can’t live a fulfilled life?
Who told you, you have to be superficial to be accepted?
Who told you, you can’t be successful unless you join a cult?
Who told you, you can’t make a difference in your generation?
Who told you, God doesn’t exist?
Who told you, God won’t be there for you if and when you call on him?
Who told you, God doesn’t love you?
Who told you these lies?????
It’s been exactly 3 months I wrote on this blog; because I also believed a few lies I was told.
Enough is Enough!!!
You deserve better than what you are currently getting. You are a Man/Woman of honor.
You are Great. You are the salt of the earth. Everything you touch increases in value.
You are the light of the world.
You are handsome/ beautiful, charismatic, charming, gifted and bold.
You are responsible and deligent.
You are wealthy and you have power
You have dignity, wisdom and discretion.
You have knowlege, insight and understanding.
You have the ability to excell in all you do.
Be confident and pasionate
You can achieve your dreams. Dont let anyone tell you less.
If you want to go to school, please go
If you want a better job, please go for it.
If you want to relive your life please do.
If you want to right your wrongs, go ahead
If you don’t like what you are getting, please step out and move forward
I have come to realize that there are better things ahead!!! Don’t kill yourself repairing what is already broken.
Don’t stop living your life because of anything or anyone.
Your life is your life!!! Events come and go but your life is all you have got.
Live your life and dreams purposefully.
When you make a mistake, dust yourself, get up and move on.
Don’t be limited by these lies.
To anyone who ever told you, you are no good, they are no better.
I hope you all enjoy this piece.
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"Power is nothing without control" is the popular slogan of the Global Tyre production company; Pirelli.
However I realized that there are many more ‘Nothing Withouts’ apart from that of Pirelli.
So here is my personalized list of ‘Nothing Withouts’.
- Intelligence is nothing without character.
- Faith is nothing without commensurate action.
- Freedom is nothing without a sense of responsibility.
- Ability is nothing without service.
- Giving is nothing without sacrifice.
- Humanity is nothing without Divinity.
- Life is nothing without eternity.
- Living is nothing without a purpose.
- Wealth is nothing without giving.
- Health is nothing without productivity.
- Knowledge is nothing without understanding.
- Agreements are nothing without commitment.
- Time is nothing without achievement.
- Education is nothing without it solving a problem.
- Problems are nothing without spotting the opportunities in them.
- Dreams are nothing without pursuit.
- Relationships are nothing without a common goal in view.
- Talent is nothing without exercise.
- Imagination is nothing without invention.
- Goals are nothing without commitment.
- Success is nothing without a successor.
- Beauty is nothing without captivation.
- Work is nothing without adding value and improvement.
- Communication is nothing without a message.
- Survival is nothing without getting fulfilled and making meaning out of life.
- Good intentions are nothing without expression.
- God’s instruction is nothing without my obedience.
- Events are nothing without measurable impact.
- Activity is nothing without desired results.
- Capacity is nothing without optimum usage.
- Opportunity is nothing without preparation.
- The past is nothing without chronicles.
- The future is nothing without visionaries.
- Impression is nothing without substance.
- Finally, I am nothing without God Almighty.
Please add to the list as you get inspired and also ponder and draw the juice from it.
Have God’s best, good speed and God bless!
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“A journey of a thousand leagues begins with a single step.”
The great difference between high achievement and failure in life is contained in your willingness to launch in the direction of your goal, even when your information is incomplete. A thousand dreams die unborn every day because the dreamer lacks the courage to take the FIRST STEP, in faith, with no guarantees of success. There are no guarantees in life, and we know that if every question must be answered, if every obstacle must first be overcome—then NOTHING will ever get done.
Decide what you want, write it down, make a plan, and then—take action.
“Leap and the net will appear!”
The Impact of Action:
The world seems to belong to those who reach out and grab it with both hands. It belongs to those who do something rather than just wish and hope and plan and pray, and intend to do something someday, when everything is just right. Successful people are not necessarily those who make the right decisions all the time. No one can do that, no matter how smart he is. But once successful people have made a decision, they begin moving toward their objectives step by- step, and they begin to get feedback or signals to tell them where they’re off course and when course corrections are necessary. As they take action and move toward their goals, they continually get new information that enables them to adjust their plans in large and small ways.
It’s important to understand that life is a series of approximations and course adjustments. Let me explain. When an airplane leaves Lagos for Abuja, it is off course 99 percent of the time. This is normal and natural and to be expected. The pilot makes continual course corrections, a little to the north, a little to the south. The pilot continually adjusts altitude and throttle. And sure enough, several hours later, the plane touches down at exactly the time predicted when it first became airborne upon leaving Lagos. The entire journey has been a process of approximations and course adjustments.
What’s the big problem? The big problem is that there are no guarantees in life. Everything you do ¾ even crossing the street ¾ is filled with uncertainty. You can never be completely sure that any action or behavior is going to bring about the desired result. There is always a risk. And where there is risk, there is fear. And whatever you think about grows in your mind and heart. People who think continually about the risks involved in any undertaking soon become preoccupied with fears and doubts and anxieties that conspire to hold them back from trying in the first place.
Launch!
At a College, in a 12-year study into the reasons for success, researchers concluded that virtually all success was based on what they called the “corridor principle.” They likened achieving success to proceeding down a corridor in life. Each of us stands at the entrance to this corridor, looking into the darkness, and we see the corridor disappear into the distance. The researchers said that the difference between the successes and the failures in their study could be summarized by the one word launch! Successful people were willing to launch themselves down the corridor of opportunity without any guarantee of what would occur. They were willing to risk uncertainty and overcome the normal fears and doubts that hold the great majority in place. And the remarkable thing is that as you move down the corridor of life, new doors of opportunity open up on both sides of you. However, you would not have seen those doors if you had not moved down the corridor. They would not have opened up for you if you had waited for some assurance before stepping out in faith and taking action.
The Confucian saying “A journey of a thousand leagues begins with a single step” simply means that great accomplishments begin with your willingness to face the inevitable uncertainty of any new enterprise and step out boldly in the direction of your goal.
Be Prepared
In everything you do, preparation is the key. If you want to be ready for success, you have to plant the seeds well in advance of the harvest that you expect. Do what the winners do: Think on paper. Memorize the winner’s creed: “Everything counts.” Everything you do is either moving you toward your goals or moving you away. Everything is either helping you or hurting you. Nothing is neutral. Everything counts.
A successful businessman was once asked for advice by a young person on how he could be more successful faster. The businessman told him that the key to his success had been to “get good” at his job.
The young man said, “I’m already good at what I do.”
The businessman then said, “Well, get better!”
The young man, somewhat self-satisfied, said, “Well, I’m already better than most people.”
To that, the businessman replied, “Then be the best.”
Those are three of the best pieces of advice I've ever heard: Get good. Get better. Be the best!
Remember, we live in a knowledge-based society, and knowledge in every field is doubling approximately every seven years. This means that you must double your knowledge in your field every seven years just to stay even. You’re already “maxed out” at your current level of knowledge and skill. You’ve reached the ceiling in your career with your current talents and abilities.
If you want to go faster and farther, you must get back to work and begin to prepare yourself for greater heights. You must put aside the newspaper, turn off the television, politely excuse yourself from aimless socializing and get back to working on yourself.
If you study and prepare yourself, your chance will come as well. There is nothing that you cannot accomplish if you’ll invest the effort to get yourself ready for the success that you desire. And there is nothing that can stop you but your own lack of preparation.
Your possibilities are endless, your potential is unlimited, and your future opens up before you when you prepare yourself for the success that must inevitably be yours.
Go forth and take action!!!!!
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NO SHAME ! NO GUILT ! NO CONDEMNATION
Through research its been discovered that people who suffer from any form of guilt or condemnation usually repeat the same mistakes that made them acquire that sense of guilt. That’s why abroad it has been found that the tendency for a divorcee to remarry and divorce again is high. Also, an ex-convict has a high propensity to return to jail for committing another crime after being released from the penitentiary for a previously committed crime. Youths from broken homes have the tendency to recreate their parents’ failures in their own homes.
I heard of a story of a young lady who took-in during her teenage years and this brought great shame on her and her family also. Her father was so disappointed and felt so ashamed of the girl. These bad emotions seeped into the core of her being and she felt guilty and condemned and never forgave herself. In the course of time, she bore her child and moved on with life. She had the opportunity to travel abroad to complete her education, after which she had a lucrative job and after that came her season of different relationships which ultimately led to marriage. During her relationship years she always seemed to attract the wrong kind of men. There were mostly men of hard leanings with obvious moral flaws. She stayed put with such men believing that that was possibly her lot in life and she did not deserve better, after all, she herself was guilty of moral flaws in her past. This ultimately culminated in her marriage to someone engaged in ‘advance-fee fraud’; 419. Joy and happiness seemed to totally elude her because after marriage came a progression of one problem after another; it was either between her husband with security operatives or she and her man and many more unbearable realities. Ultimately, she opted out of the relationship and abandoned herself to guilt and solitude.
Thinking about it all, our emotional baggage from our past seems to hang-on to us with the aim to influence the outcome of our futures. Recently, light flooded my soul from the scripture in Romans 8: 1-2: There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus,who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit. For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has made me free from the law of sin and death.
I now understand that the condemnation for my wrong was put on Christ. In other words, Christ took every reason I should be guilty, ashamed or condemned for any charge life puts against me. I could have felt guilty and condemned and could not amount to anything because I lacked the required credentials but that guilt and condemnation was put on Christ; Christ has become my qualification. I could have been condemned because of the atrocities of my progenitors but all that condemnation was put on Christ; therefore I am free. I could have been condemned because I had an abortion therefore named a murderer but that condemnation came on Christ; I am therefore acquitted. I could have been condemned because I was a robber but that guilt and condemnation Christ took. I could have been condemned because I am from the seemingly backward race; the black race, but all that condemnation came upon Christ.
Christ is my justification; once again there is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh but after the spirit, for the law of the spirit of life has set me free from the law of sin and death. Therefore I am in Christ and I choose never again to condemn myself when Christ has taken it all and accepted me. I am free from past personal and generational errors therefore; the cycle of repetition of past failures is over. No more guilt! No more condemnation! No more shame! In Christ I am not guilty and neither am I condemned, I have been discharged and acquitted. This is applicable to all who are in Christ; go ahead, become all God designed you to be. God bless!
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